Wardrobe Wars: Then and Now

My quite spirited 7-year-old daughter, Dani, has waged some magnificent clothing campaigns through the years.  Here is just a small sampling:

Must Wear Skirts (Age 4)
“I can’t wear pants!!! Everyone wears skirts! I–NEED–SKIRTS!!!” she tearfully cries for numerous hours of her life.

No More Skirts (Age 5)
I was mean and made my daughter wear pants, but we slowly accumulated a wardrobe full of skirts.  Then, as you would expect, Dani decided she’s not that into skirts anymore.  She wants pants.

Just Soft Pants (Age 6)
“These jeans are sooo scratchy.  Only soft pants!”.

Must Change Clothes (Age 6 and 7)
Finally, my opinionated girl has slightly mellowed her clothing choices, but there has to me something, right?   “Mo-om, I can’t wear the same clothes for the whole day!”

A New Chapter Emerges
My, now 3-year-old, Mase, has decided to follow in the footsteps of his oldest sister.

He came home from church last week and disappeared.

About five minutes later he surfaces, dressed in an entirely different ensemble.
“I change clothes, all by self.” he proudly states.

The Daddy Nightshirt
I thought I’d seen it all, but my innovative little dude came up with his own unique clothing battle:

Last month, I was a bit more behind on laundry than usual (hard to believe if you saw my usual) and ran out of clean pajamas for Mase.   No problem.  I grabbed one of my husband’s old tee-shirts and handed it to him, calling it a daddy nightshirt.

Now, he will only wear his cute jammies during the day.  Most nights, he demands a daddy nightshirt!

We were having company Wednesday night, so I attempted to dress him in some lovely moose pajamas. He wouldn’t have it.  “That not Daddy nightshirt.  I’m man. Want daddy nightshirt!”  How can you argue with that?

Little does my man know that most of his daddy nightshirts are actually mommy nightshirts.  Shhh.

Grumpy Mom Goal of the Day: Surrender


  1. My girls have gone through clothes stages too. Only skirts/dresses, only pants, no jeans whatsoever, and even once I had a 3 year old girl who would only wear blue!

  2. That is so cute! My daughter loves to wear her ratty tatty dress up clothes when we go out in public-Makes for some interesting conversations with complete strangers! So far, dear son is fine with what I dress him in-who knows how long that will last?

  3. Ahh, the clothing stages. I let my daughter pick her own clothes at 18 months, and she's been very opinionated about what she wears (she's 5 now, and WOW, some of those outfits…) and I swore with my son I would never let him choose, I was hoping that since he was a boy, he'd just go with it, like my brothers. Yep, that didn't work out so well for me. He was never a big fan of clothes, but at about 1 year, he was done with them. I had to bring him to the fabric store and let him pick out his own fabric (crazy stuff, with skulls, or tractors, or odd bat patterns, or BRIGHT orange basketballs) and I'd make him pants, and those were the ONLY pants he'd allow me to put on him. I know, he's 1, just make him wear whatever you want him too. That's MUCH easier said then done as he runs, squirms, takes off his pants, and kicks me while I try to dress him. It was just easier to let him dress like a lunatic. Now, he'll only wear his Dinosaur shirts, or his Hulk shirt. I've had to add appliques to his shirts so he'd have more things to wear. I'm going to attempt to applique a few pair of shorts too, since we got a bunch of hand-me-downs and I refuse to buy fabric if he already has things to wear. We'll see how “dino” shorts work. So, yeah, he and his sister have their own sense of style. It used to bother me, but after a few days of relative peace when it came to getting dressed, I decided it wasn't worth the fight.
    I feel your pain.

  4. Ohhhhh, the teenage years are going to be FUN!!!!!

  5. Oh. Growing up I don't even remember owning actual pajamas. We (my two brothers, and I) ALWAYS wore “Daddy Night Shirts!”

  6. My daughter, who is not quite 2, has definite clothing preferences already. My mom made her 2 tutus, one pink, one blue and one green. She will ONLY wear the pink one. So funny!

  7. What you're little boy shouted at you, is the CUTEST thing EVER! You can not argue with that kind of logic!

  8. Oh man, so cute!! I dread the day my daughter can make her own choices. She's pretty tomboyish but I can already tell when she gets dressed up and is told how pretty she looks, she loves it and wants more!! I'll just cherish these moments of picking her outfits out for her 🙂

  9. I have had diffent battles with each of my three lovelys! My daugter is and I think may always be a dress and skirt girl, but she does now need to wear leggins with everything! My oldest went through a stage where he had to dress like daddy, so at four and five insisted on wearing button down shirts and khakis, now he is very concerned about what the girl will think. My youngest went through a stage where he would change, all my himself starting at 2, three, four and even five time a day. Thank God they are all so funny or I would have lost my mind years ago! I always love my visits to your site!

  10. Oh, glad I have boys! Clothes are not an issue — every morning I lay out the jeans and whatever faded Star Wars shirt is at hand. And we're out the door (well, til it comes to brushing their teeth…which is like PULLING teeth…)

  11. I just found your blog via http://sanitysoverrated.blogspot.com/ and I love it! Am passing it along to my sis-in-law – hilarious!

  12. My daughter flitted in and out of the skirt only phase. And her sister five years later was kind enough to have an opposite inclination so I could never hand clothes down easily.

  13. I have three girls. My wardrobe wars are never over. Currently I am the meanest mom alive because I'm against torn jeans. Which means I'm probably the oldest, fuddy-duddiest mom alive, too.
    Don't know, don't care. Ripped is where the line is drawn. You can not match, totally clash, dress in a tutu on a day that isn't Halloween, I don't care, as long as you don't look like I don't buy you clothes.

  14. He is so cute in his “daddy” night shirt. I have one of those. She is a 3 yr old “pincess”. This girl must wear princess dresses everyday. There is several changings throughout the day too. And a bathing suit outfit in there too. I must take pics of the outfits one day. Too funny. I hope you have a blessed Easter.
    God Bless,

  15. Too cute!! My 6 year old boys only wantto wear warm up pants and refuse to color coordinate at all.

  16. Yes, my girls are the divas with clothing … but Buddy? Gheesh! he came home from school with his shirt inside out — somehow I had missed it in the morning, but how did *he* miss it when he put the thing on?!

    (I guess I shouldn't talk — my college girlfriends just reminded me that I went to Church 1 day w/2 different shoes. I was trying to decide in the morning and didn't realize it till I took my normal seat on the the table in the front of the room to teach Gospel Doctrine and noticed my 2 different shoes … oh yeah! Like Mommy like Son I guess)

    Have a great Easter!

  17. Oh no…! I deal with it too 🙂 I am not looking forward to the teen years!!
    Its cute right now & I'm sure we'll look back on the stages & laugh….even if my 5 year old insists on wearing her paint smock as a dress 🙂

  18. So cute! And so true – they have a mind of their own, mine have gone through many clothing battles very similar to yours. At least they wear clothes, mine went through a no clothes battle.

  19. Sigh. Mine go through those phases too. Either they want to change every five minutes or they want to continue to wear the same food encrusted shirt for eternity. 🙂

  20. They are so stinkin cute! =)

  21. Hilarious! I have been there too. Why do they have to be so opinionated anyway. It's not like I'm that…oh wait…I guess I am! 🙂

  22. That's awesome! LOL Gotta love the “Daddy” nightshirts and “I'm man”. My daughter goes through about 5 or 6 wardrobe changes a day. Every now and then I flip out about it. My son went through an Indiana Jones phase, a cowboy phase, an army guys phase. And now, he's just kind of normal. Kind of. Thank goodness he has to wear a uniform to school though!

  23. At 16 months old, Laura is already asserting her personal style. So far, this style includes several jackets and a winter hat. It's Maryland in April. There is no way the child is chilly!

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