My seven-year-old daughter, Dani, wanted to talk to me after school yesterday. Dani told me she asked some girls if she could play with them at recess and they wouldn’t let her. They asked her to do a gymnastics trick to get into their group, which she did, and they still didn’t want to play with her.
While Dani can be quite a willful child herself, this story just made me sad. She wanted me to fix it and I couldn’t. I know she’ll be OK. She even made another friend yesterday.
But, I also know it will not get easier in the years to come. There will be more groups. More popularity contests. More peer pressure to be a certain way.
What I Want my Daughters to Know:
Be confident. You are beautiful! You’re amazing! I love you and will always love you, unconditionally. Never give away who you are to be accepted. It’s better not to fit in.
Other girls won’t always be nice. Don’t waste your days wondering why. Don’t become one of them. Be kind to others. Be considerate and helpful. Pray to find good friends. Seek out the girl who is sitting alone at the lunch table. Sit by her. Include her.
Be nice to each other. A sister is a gift. I so wanted a sister when I was your age. But now I’ve been blessed with you. Cherish each other. Become best friends. Tell secrets. Laugh and cry together. Don’t get offended.