“When can I start wearing real makeup mom?”
“Never. Why do you want to wear it?”
“To make me look prettier. ”
“You are beautiful. Makeup couldn’t make you look any prettier.”
“Then why do you wear it, mom?”
This was part of a conversation I just had with my seven-year-old daughter.
There were two recent studies done about makeup. Twenty-five women were photographed with no makeup, then with three make-up styles: natural, professional, and glamorous.
The first study had 149 adults (61 of them men) judge various female faces for 250 ms. In the second study 119 adults (30 men) were given unlimited time to inspect each face.
For the quick-glance study, makeup had a significant positive impact on all four attributes tested: attractiveness, competence, likability, and trustworthiness.
Participants also gave a higher positive response to those who wore the makeup when they had an unlimited time to view the photos, but the glamorous look had a significant negative effect on trustworthiness.
Except for my blue eye shadow obsession in high school, I’ve never been a huge makeup fan…until now. My face has started demanding it! I feel better when those dark circles are covered, my eyelashes are visible, and my white cloud-like mug has some color.
And I’ll admit it! I want to be viewed in a more likable light. I don’t want people to think I look haggard, except for my husband. For some reason I have no problem letting him see me without the makeup. Maybe I should include my better half in my general frumpiness-while-at-home decision…I’ll have to ponder this.
Still, I want to teach my two daughters about inner beauty and natural beauty. I’m not against them wearing pretend makeup occasionally, like my daughter did at a friend’s birthday party recently. And I’m not opposed to them wearing real makeup far far down the road.
But I don’t want them to try and conform to all the latest styles and trends. I want them to know a sincere smile adds more beauty than any lipstick. I want them to be confident in their appearance. And at the same time, I don’t want their appearance to be the foundation of their confidence.
I’d keep rambling on, but it’s late as I’m writing this and I still need to finish watching all the competent and likable women on this week’s Bachelor.
Grumpy Grateful Mom Goal: Making sure my girls know they are naturally beautiful.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic.